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About 3 years ago, my sister Beth moved from Austin, TX to Baton Rouge, from 7 hours away to 1.5 on a good day.

On Friday we had a long phone conversation and decided that since we both had Monday free, I would drove over to Baton Rouge for the day.

Beth is immersed in an intense yoga training, so she used me as a guinea pig to practice her instruction. I was excited to get a free yoga class. She has even learned some of the difficult words.

For lunch we met up with one of her new friends from yoga training. They were cute as they talked about the energy of the chakra teacher. What I enjoyed about having a third person at lunch was it gave me and Beth the opportunity to tell some of our shared history. We talked about stories from our childhood in which we had different perspectives. Beth is seven years younger, so when I talked about the flood of ‘79, I spoke about trauma while Beth saw it as an adventure. We both recognized and learned that family and community are most important.

Blooming wisteria

The spring day was a beauty with wisteria blooming on a trellis at the outdoor restaurant. Beth remembers wisteria growing near our childhood home. Wisteria is a strong growing plant that symbolizes a strength and resilience that Beth is feeling drawn to. We didn’t, however, sit near the hovering flowers because they were covered in bees.

We ended our day together by getting pedicures, a pure luxury.

Beth and I chose similar polish colors.

I traveled home feeling refreshed and refueled. Totally worth the travel time.

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Mug Shot

My sister is seven years younger than me.  Yes, she is a grown woman, and the mother of two children, but even so, she will always be my younger sister, and I will always advocate for her like a mother.

I wish we lived closer to each other, and never so much as I did last week when I got this text from her.

That was Wednesday.  On Thursday, I checked in and she had spent 4 hours in the ER on Wednesday night getting fluids and nausea medicine. Did they check for appendicitis?  I asked.  She wasn’t sure.  My gut was telling me something, but I live in South Louisiana, and she is in Austin, TX.  How could I tell her that the ER had been wrong?

What I did tell her was to get in touch with her regular doctor.  She did.  They gave her an appointment for Friday morning.  Are you kidding me?! The mother in me was yelling inside my head.  I asked, “Did you tell them your symptoms? Promise me if the pain gets more severe, you will insist on an appointment today!”

Friday came.  Her husband and son packed up to leave for Louisiana to go to the LSU football game.  Their daughter, my niece, attends LSU.  Beth told him to go ahead with his plans, and she would let him know what the doctor said.

Her appointment was mid-morning.  I got a text at 12:10 PM:

The CT scan took forever.  I didn’t hear from her again until after school around 4 PM.  The diagnosis was appendicitis.  I broke down.  I wanted to get on the next flight to Austin, but I knew that was unrealistic. Instead, I got in touch with her best friend. She assured me she was going to be able to help. I talked to my people (my husband, daughter, and mother).  They all advised that she was in good hands, and there was nothing more I could do.

My brother-in-law turned around and headed back home.  She was alone, but he would be there when she woke up.

My worry turned to anger. I’m still trying to deal with that side of it.  Beth is home and feeling sore, but she will recover.  She told me that I “advocate like a mother,” a slogan a friend of hers uses in her advocacy for her trisomy 18 child.

My sister will be fine, but I’ve realized with this incident how fiercely I care about her, as if she were my own daughter.  And I will always “Fight like a Mother!”

 

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